Books
Churches and faith communities face the same problems as other organizations, but with a major twist: their internal conflicts do far more damage than similar fights in the workplace, and as a result, are more challenging to bring about lasting peace.
The reasons are not hard to find: Workplace conflicts have a management hierarchy that has the power to support, admonish, or terminate employees. Since their job is their main source of income, everyone has an incentive to find ways to "get along" with each other, and management can enforce it.
Not so churches.
Although churches usually have similar rules, policies, procedures, and power centers as corporate workplaces, faith communities are built on the relational foundations of trust, forgiveness, and mutual respect. This is a much more intimate landscape than any other workplace. Internal conflicts are like a train wreck with powerful forces in direct conflict. It is no wonder, then, that church conflicts do far more serious damage to already-troubled congregations than denominational fight.
Let Us Prey
This book targets clergy with extreme, toxic narcissistic traits. It provides insights into the damage these severe and dangerous emotional diseases can cause, how to recognize them, and practical strategies for dealing with them while protecting oneself and the church. This book works with true stories revealed to the author from all around the world.
Small Wars
This book covers new territory in the field of Christian conflict resolution. It goes where no others go and answers the questions few others attempt to explore. This book sets a new standard for Peacemakers of all religious backgrounds.
-Detailed analysis of real church conflicts
-How conflicts escalate
-Intervention techniques
-Step by step reconciliation processes
The Road Home
A Guided Journey to Authentic Forgiveness and Reconciliation
What is forgiveness, exactly?
How does it work? What are the benefits?
Why should I forgive?
Don't they just get away with it when I forgive?
What if they're not sorry?
Some things are unforgivable, aren't they?
What's in it for me?
These are all common and reasonable questions, but the answers may surprise you!
This book is based on scripture, clinical studies, and my personal experiences trying to forgive sustained childhood abuse and betrayal by a trusted friend - my pastor.
Who Should Read These Books?
These books are written for pastors, leaders, lay people, seminarians, and anyone who has a stake in the outcome of church conflicts. Whether you are directly involved in a church dispute or seeking to understand and prevent them, these resources offer real, down-in-the-trenches answers.
My books are based on scripture, interviews, clinical studies from around the world, and my 50 years of personal experience. They are not "feel-good" books – they are practical guides to navigating some of the most challenging situations a church can face.
BUT DO THEY WORK? YES!!! Everything in each book has been field-tested multiple times.